So I have realised (after carrying last in this
matter) that snatching is the new way to date!
Not kidding, I noticed that nowadays a girl
doesn’t seem to have a problem ‘hanging’ around a guy who has a girlfriend
because there is hope that since he isn’t officially married he can change his
mind and choose her.
I once told a friend that I refuse to enjoy the
company of an ‘attached’ man and she plainly said I was dulling because he
isn’t ‘married’ so what was the problem? Hian! The problem is that when I
eventually fall for him and then he doesn’t call off his wedding to this other
woman, what would happen to me?
I’m not saying you can’t be friends with someone
who has a partner oh, ask my close friends and they will tell you I’m the
master of friendship (sometimes they say it’s to my own detriment); I would have turned you to 'padi' before anything
(I truly believe you can never tell for sure why someone comes into your life).
However, if from the beginning you both are
straight up and honest with yourselves and no empty promises then fine,
whatever now happens is of your own doing. But not a situation where the guy is
‘hovering and covering and blocking and telling you stories that touch’ and
you’re enjoying this whole process only for him to invite you to his wedding!
What do you want me to do there biko? Serve food or souvenir?
It’s not only the women who try this stunt,
there are even some men who oppress impressionable women who are in their own
relationships, trying to cause confusion in her life and truncate her marital
destiny! WHY?!
I’m not going to say “oh men are demons or babes
are fools” (I don’t have the perfect opinion about everything) what I’m
concerned about is “how did we get here?” this stage where the lines and
boundaries in boy-girl relationships have become blurred or none existent and
has it always been this way?
I won’t claim innocence because I’ve been a
willing prey as well as an ignorant predator in this matter in my past life,
however I’m afraid. Afraid that if it’s so confusing now, what would it be like
when I have a 16 year old female child? By then would there be a difference
between an acquaintance, colleague, classmate, neighbour, close friend and
boyfriend? Would there be clear cut distinctions between all these people? Or we’ll all be intertwined and enjoying
‘benefits’ of these relationships?
I wonder how high the rate of emotional trauma
or mental illnesses will be by then, because I’m sure beyond a doubt that more
young people will still commit suicide from being disappointed or heart broken
when that ‘attached unofficial partner’ decides to marry that other person and
then you realize you’ve spent months/years enjoying the company of this person
that was NEVER yours!
I’ve heard stories of people who snatched and
are happily married no problem at all, like seriously I don’t judge you. Maybe
if I knew how to snatch I won’t still be unmarried, however as a traditional
girl I want a SINGLE UNATTACHED man to be with ONLY me officially and
unofficially! Thank you! I don’t have energy for avoidable drama or
heart-paining!
And some people may say “what if you’re the one
he wants to marry and he has unofficial babe outside who wants to displace
you?” Ehn, no argument, you’ll only have to wait and see if that ever happens
to me because there are somethings I don’t even permit to worry me now (And
besides have you ever experienced the power of a violent praying woman?! Lool)
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According
to the image, don’t you see how easy it is to kill yourself when you’re stuck
between zones?!
