That is one question a lot of us have failed woefully to answer; we spend day after day which eventually leads to years and we complain and decide that life has been so difficult and we are stuck at the same level and never achieving any of our dreams
Two
months in the ‘new year’ have passed and while most of us started the year with
a desire to make positive changes, we are still standing empty and slowly
getting frustrated but the truth is do we know what we want?
A
lot of us will shout “YES” because we have day dreams; seeing ourselves as we
drive that nice car or laughing our hearts out at a joke your amazing new partner
just cracked or being promoted at work and earning more money however what do
you want?
Think
about it, how do you want your life to be today? Tomorrow? And the next 4 or 10
years? Do you have a detailed picture in your mind or written in a book? Do the
choices you make today in anyway lead you ……anywhere at all or you’re just ‘living
in the moment’ and rolling with the days.
I
recently went through this painful analysis and I learnt the truth that I have
good intentions but that is it! Just plain good intentions for myself, my
family, even the company I work and as a citizen of my country however I have
no plans! No concrete plans that I have developed, re-structured, been
consistent with and seen come to pass. And so I have been angry with myself and
my own indiscipline for years but I don’t know why I didn’t do anything about
it. I mean I prayed and acted right (MOST of the time) so why wasn’t that
enough for my intentions to manifest into reality?
And
I came up with the following answers:
- I did not have a clear, unshakeable, convincing vision of what I wanted; yes, I wanted a good life but ‘good’ is vague! And relative too. So even when an opportunity for ‘the good life’ came, I missed it.
- I did not have a clear, unshakeable, convincing vision of what I wanted; yes, I wanted a good life but ‘good’ is vague! And relative too. So even when an opportunity for ‘the good life’ came, I missed it.
- The
times I eventually had some sort of plan, I gave up too easily, I wasn’t consistent
and generally didn’t believe in myself enough to just fight for what was in my
heart/mind.
- I
was lazy and lacked discipline; seriously, like for NO reason I can define I
will waste time or procrastinate my day away.
- I
was afraid and allowed past disappointments to leave me in doubt of my
abilities; I just always had a story for why I would fail even before I started
and felt like my heart won’t take another break. And sometimes I was afraid
because I knew the hard work and consistency that went into maintaining success
and progress.
It
is one of the most difficult cycles to be in: to know you SHOULD do something
about where you are but then you don’t so you end up so mad with yourself when
nothing has been accomplished then you sink into this dark place which just
makes you more weary and depressed so STILL
you do nothing. It’s like an alcoholic who gets drunk to forget how messed up
their life is and then when they get sober, are so disappointed with themselves
they get drunk again in order to forget and numb the emotions; it’s just a vicious
cycle of pain.
Like
the video above (which I unashamedly got from the Notebook movie), we have no idea how badly the people connected to us feel when
we are constantly clueless or making excuses; when we just remain static and
over time become such angry or dejected individuals and in effect frustrate
them too and in some extreme cases lose a loved one because they cannot just
keep waiting for us to get it together!
We
need to just STOP! In the midst of life’s madness and decide to know what we
want. So when things get tough, when you lack peace, when you have no money,
when people throw rubbish at you, you can STAND firm and KNOW what you are
working towards. Stop blaming your lack of talent or opportunity, those are not
even factors that matter.
You
can’t keep sending out mixed signals and then expect anyone to trust you
completely to deliver! Everyone wants loyalty and consistency; no matter how
much they like you, people will be scared that you may bail and then few years
down the line you realize you have lost important relationships; it is painful
to realize that it is your fault that you are alone.
I
read in a book that the “The first step to getting the things you want out of
life is this: decide what you want.”
So
please go ahead and decide what you want! Really think about it, “What do I
want?” A ridiculously hard question yet NOT impossible to answer! And when you
figure it out as well, you’ll see it is not impossible to attain too!
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God has NOT given us the spirit of fear but the spirit of Courage, Love and
Self-discipline.
And
this is my sincere prayer for you: that you grasp, accept and apply this truth
as well as get the strength to follow through every single day! May you not
record a loss or mourn because you didn’t get up and get it together, AMEN.
